December 30, 2005

HOW TO FIND A SOLUTION TO A NON-SPECIFIC TROUBLING PROBLEM

Blogdaughter Tammi of Tammi's World is mired in mental confusion:

I don't know what I'm fussin' about. Honestly. I'm just mad at me. If I knew why I'd forgive myself and tell me to get over it. That's the problem. I don't know why.

Here's my suggestion:

Pen, notebook, quiet place.

At the top of the sheet of paper, write the question you want the answer to. Perhaps in this case "Why does my life feel unbalanced?"

Then just start writing whatever falls out of your head for about 15 minutes or so. Doesn't have to make sense. Doesn't even have to be legible. It's for your eyes only, so feel free to write ANYTHING, since no one else will ever see it. Feel free to throw it away when you're done.

Your problem is that your mind is currently a clogged sink. There's a wad a greasy muck in your mental pipes, but you can't get at it because your head is full of the standing water of muddled thoughts.

Writing down the muddle is like bailing out the sink. With the murky water out of the way, you can start to work on clearing the clog.

Which you can do by getting a fresh sheet of paper and topping it with a more direct problem-solving question, like "How can I get [thing that would make your life feel more balanced]?"

Of course, if you're not much for writing, there's always prayer. Try this one:

"God, if I asked you why my life felt unbalanced, what would you say?"

Then sit quietly and listen. I suspect you'll get an answer within 5 minutes, as God (just like everyone else) tends to be prompt when giving advice to someone who asks for it willingly.

Hope that helps.

Posted by: Harvey at 04:43 PM | Comments (4) | Add Comment
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1 Thank you darlin'. Any and all suggestions are welcome/needed. The frustrating part is NOT Knowing whats wrong. And not really being able to talk about it. Isn't that weird - comin' from me?!?!? But thank you. You are a sweetie!

Posted by: Tammi at December 30, 2005 06:19 PM (lfQya)

2 If that doesn't help clean the mental plumbing, there is always the mental plumbing equivilant of liquid drano... aka alcohol! Yes, I know that's my answer to everything.

Posted by: Contagion at December 30, 2005 07:41 PM (e8b4J)

3 honey....same problem here... oh Tammi, I hear Vegas calling...

Posted by: armywifetoddlermom at December 30, 2005 10:33 PM (dw5Zd)

4 Lorcet seems to be working for me to solve that problem as of late... ;-)

Posted by: Bou at December 31, 2005 10:33 AM (iHxT3)

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