September 30, 2005
However, in my experience, I've found that you usually don't need to worry about hatemail as long as you keep your posts confined to ideas and don't make snarky personal comments about another blogger.
Don't get me wrong - I have NO problem with laying out blazing-hot personal invective. But, personally, I reserve that for public figures who are used to that sort of thing and who dismiss me as being a bitter old crank. When it comes to discussing ideas with a "person of blog", though, remember that your name-calling WILL get back to him - maybe through Technorati, or referer logs, or trackback, or an e-mail from a friend - and you WILL have to answer for your cheap shots.
Don't take them unless you're prepared to either defend them or apologize.
For example, in this post arguing about the Iraq war, I called someone a "pecker-head". This personal insult was unprovoked, and when I was called on it, I admitted that I was wrong and apologized for it.
Lesson learned - NEVER initiate name-calling when arguing with another blogger.
Nevertheless, there will be times when you decide to take the plunge and discuss with a fellow blogger a contentious issue about which you feel strongly. This CAN be done without degenerating into a schoolyard shouting-match if you remember one simple rule:
DON'T USE THE "S" WORD
Which in this case is "stupid".
It's fine to call an idea wrong, unworkable, ill-advised, impractical, speculative, or unfeasible - but the minute you call it "stupid", you've just implied that the person you're arguing with is ALSO stupid for holding that idea.
Same goes for any synonyms.
After that, it's the downward spiral of Godwin's Law, and someone is going to get called a Nazi.
So my advice is - stick with the issue
State your position, then state your reasons for believing as you do. If you can't explain your reasons clearly, consult Google or Wikipedia to find some better-written argumentation to support your point and link that.
When reading someone's contentious response, you may feel the need to use the "S" word. Keep in mind that your fellow blogger is NOT stupid. They have very likely put SOME thought into their position, but simply failed to explain of what that thought consisted. ASK them to explain their reasoning. Given enough probing, you may well discover that there ARE reasons why an otherwise intelligent person might accept a notion that you consider wrong. Once you have those reasons, THEN you can debate whether they're sufficient to support the conclusion.
You CAN have a civilized discussion on a hard topic. It just takes a little patience.
For further tangentially related thoughts, see also my posts on:
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