I've mulled this over, and I'm not really sure myself. About the only thing I can think of is "they're insecure about their manhood".
Which sounds like a cliche, but this is what I mean - teen males know that they're expected to act "manly", but they don't yet understand what all that would entail (they're probably a little fuzzy on the honesty, integrity & discipline aspects of manhood at that point - hopefully they'll figure out that those are the REAL keys). What they DO understand about manhood at this point is the concept of penile-vaginal copulation. That's the one aspect of manhood they're certain about. So, when placed in a situation of uncertainty, they fall back on what they can count on to demonstrate their manhood - defending their love of vagina.
That's my theory. Others are welcome in the comments.
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Personally, I don't mind being around gays and I never have.
If I have a friend who I find out later is gay it doesn't change my opinion of them.
However, what bothers me are the flamboyant ones. Many seem like, since they are attracted to men they have to make themselves into an annoying stereotype. They don't understand that it's their demeanor and not their sexuality that gives everyone around them the urge to punch their teeth out.
I know flamboyant guys who are straight (or at least claim to be)and I can't tolerate them either.
Also, one of the most annoying things anyone can do, gay or straight, is be compelled to bring up their sexuality at least every four sentences.
Most gay men I have known do this. As well as lesbians and frat guys.
And that's why I can't stand any of them.
To sum up: It's not the sexual preference that bothers me, it's having to constantly be reminded that I'm in the presence of a gay man.
And, of course, I can't speak for all young men, but I do know quite a few that agree with me about this.
Posted by: Joey at August 26, 2007 11:56 AM (4wcQq)
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Could be that being young, they look at all the women they're attracted to and don't like the idea of another dude being attracted to them.
IMHO
Posted by: ChrisA at August 26, 2007 01:20 PM (TnrKn)
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I don't think all teenagers are that way, but I know many that are. I think that some of them just don't like the thought of another guy hitting on them. Hell I'm an adult and really don't care if someone is gay or not, but I really am not comfortable with a guy hitting on me. I may not care if someone is gay, but that doesn't mean I don't think it's wrong.
Posted by: Contagion at August 26, 2007 02:51 PM (loeSs)
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Given the harvest of homosexual activities that the world has been blessed with I can understand the reaction of young men to hyomosexual contact. Would a visit to an AIDs ward would be a tremendous boaster to the gay lifestyle? As if there aren't enough problems and misery in the world, do we really need more such problems?
Posted by: Thomas Jackson at August 26, 2007 06:32 PM (A2ZNt)
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It's because the gay guy dresses better.
All joking aside, I agree with Joey. I've known several gay flaming drama queens who go out of their way to annoy the shit out of everyone around them then cry "homophobia" when you call them on it. My response is usually something along the lines of "I'd think you were an asshole even if you were straight"
Posted by: Graumagus at August 26, 2007 06:46 PM (YUKdz)
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In my case it was real simple. When I was 19 and 20 I spent time in the San Francisco Bay Area, first at the body and fender shop called the Oak Knoll Naval Hospital in Oakland, then in the Marine Barracks at Treasure Island there in San Francisco Bay.
Oddly, before then I had no particular thoughts about gays, they were none of my business. Getting propositioned twelve times in a block was just a little much.
Posted by: Peter at August 26, 2007 09:11 PM (d5KYk)
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Also, a few years ago I had a flaming gay roommate.
One time I walked in on him masturbating.
Ten minutes later I was the drunkest I've ever been.
Posted by: Joey at August 26, 2007 11:46 PM (4wcQq)
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Adolescent males are still finding their identity, and really aren't comfortable around anyone that they can't identify with. They also cannot handle being around elderly people, babies, and toddlers. Since a large part of the adolescent male's identity is the Search for Trim, then someone whom he should identify but has actively rejected this identity (and especially one who advertises with every sentence through characteristic speech patterns) is someone assaulting his world-view.
Posted by: Phelps at August 27, 2007 01:40 PM (0Nw5i)
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